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No one goes into a marriage intending to fail.

Think about that for a moment. No one goes into business hoping to fail. You don’t invest your money hoping to lose it all. People don’t get involved in some athletic competition with the hope of losing.

Everybody wants to win! And that includes winning in marriage.

When I played Little League baseball as a kid, there were two teams that stood out. If you got picked to play on a team during tryouts, you hoped it was the Braves and you prayed it wasn’t the Giants.

The Giants always finished in last place, and the Braves always finished in first place. It wasn’t luck or just the skill of the players that helped the Braves finish in first place.

They had this amazing coach, a guy from Kentucky who ate, breathed, and slept baseball. He had more knowledge in his little finger than most coaches have learned in their lifetime! He imparted to the kids knowledge of the game, a great work ethic, and a winning attitude.

Marriage is the same way.

It’s not luck that makes a good marriage. It takes a willingness to learn and the discipline to consistently put into practice the things that make for a strong marriage.

One of the most important things to make a marriage successful is sacrifice. No marriage can flourish or reach its maximum potential without a willingness to sacrifice.

Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.

Jesus so loved the church that He gave Himself. Sacrifice. And husbands are commanded, admonished, and encouraged to love their wives in the same way that Christ loves the church…and that is sacrificially.

The opposite of sacrifice is selfishness. Selfishness is a cancer to any relationship. Selfishness will destroy a marriage. The Bible declares that when two people are married, the two become one. The problem is most people spend the rest of their married lives fighting over which one!

It is not supposed to be that way. We are called to be like Christ who didn’t come to serve Himself. We should become experts in the art of putting our spouse before ourselves.

Philippians 2:3-4 says, “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

How appropriate that is for marriage! Husbands, you should try to outdo your wife in putting her first and blessing her. Wives, you should try to outdo your husband in putting him first and blessing him. What a healthy, happy, “winning” marriage that will make!

In his message “The Ten Commandments of Marriage” Pastor Bayless Conley looks at God’s wedding vows with His bride, Israel, and shows you how the Ten Commandments are as relevant for marriages today as ever.

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Bayless Conley is a pastor, author, and Bible teacher known for his clear presentation of the gospel and the way he applies the life-changing truth of God’s Word to everyday life. Each week his broadcast, Answers with Bayless Conley, is impacting lives around the world in many languages on TV and online.

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